Bextips

Anonymous asked: Serious DRAMA! I am secretly in love with my ex-boyfriends best friend. . .as if that isn't bad enough we all live together. Me, my ex, and his best friend (my new crush). The problem is, my crush is so hot and cold. Sometimes he acts like he really likes me and sometimes he doesn't even talk to me for days at a time. How do I know if he really is interested and how do we take our relationship to the next level?

Move out!!!! For goodness sakes!!! Like, ASAP (meaning yesterday, not in a month or two or when your lease is up). This situation is less Three’s Company and more Bermuda Love Triangle where no one will come out alive (ok that was a little dramatic but I hope you get the point.) 

1. Why on earth would you live with your ex? It’s over. Close the door and don’t look back. Living together will surely only complicate things.
2. Why on earth would you live with a new crush? Now is the time to be mysterious, beautiful and independent. As roomies, he will always know where you are, when you are home, what you look like in the morning etc… not ideal for keeping the mysterious, beautiful, independent persona alive. 
3. Tread lightly on dating the best friend of your ex. Who knows what your ex will poison his thoughts with. Also, your crush may be incredibly loyal to his best friend and end up leading you on or hurting you in the process.

That being said, once you do move out, treat the crush as you would any other guy you are interested in. Don’t call him, don’t always be available. If he really likes you it will become clear soon enough. He will pursue the relationship and hopefully, get the blessing of his friend so he won’t feel bad about his feelings for you. 

Good luck with the guy and your very immediate apartment hunt. 

Bextip for 10pm Saturday night. .

If he is calling you now, don’t answer. 

How to look gorgeous in pictures

Between you and me, there is absolutely no true correlation between whether or not someone is physically gorgeous and how great they look in pictures. I have seen some beautiful women look the awful in pictures and vice versa. 

Celebrities in particular always seem to look stunning on the red carpet, then you see the paparazzi shots and wonder if it is the same person. Often, the smoke and mirrors that celebs use to look their best are easily attainable with a quick lesson in posing. 

Check out these valuable tips from About.com’s beauty editor, Julyne Derrick.

Secret No. 1: Turn partially sideways to the camera, planting one foot in front of the other. Point your toe to the camera and place your weight on your back foot.

Secret No. 2: Pull head forward slightly to minimize any appearance of a double chin.

Secret No. 3: Hold arms slightly away from your body. This keeps upper arm flab from flattening out and therefore appearing flabbier (much like thighs do when one sits on a couch).

Secret No. 4: Pull shoulders back, chest forward and gently suck stomach in. Be careful not to suck stomach so far in that your ribs show, thereby causing those who later see the photo to cluck to themselves in a bemused, sing-song voice, “She’s sucking i-in.”

Secret No. 5: If you can get away with it without looking like a Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Cover Girl wannabe, try the look away trick. To do this, look away from the camera, then turn towards it, breaking into a smile just before the camera clicks. Your smile will appear fresh, not frozen. This trick takes practice behind closed, locked doors.

When taking a photo it’s also important the photographer does not snap the picture from below. This adds another 20-50 pounds to the 10 pounds automatically and annoyingly added by the camera. Find out why cameras add 10 pounds in this article by Geek Sugar.

Another tip is to hold a purse in front of your stomach or throw a jacket over your shoulder to look slimmer or conceal problem areas. 

In group photos, stand slightly behind the person beside you to look smaller and have them unknowingly camouflage your waistline. It works!