No, this post is not about
my favorite 90’s R&B group of a different spelling. Rather, I want to address the boys out there who are passively texting girls they like instead of manning up and asking them out. These boys can be upwards of 30 years old. And it is an epidemic.
Boys, if you like a girl, be a MAN. Call her. Ask her out on a date (a real one where you plan in advance where you will go and what you will do and what time you will pick her up). Sending a passive text to gauge weather or not she will respond favorably or hoping she will suggest getting together first so you don’t have to is not man behavior. It is boy behavior. It is scared behavior.
Trust me on this one. Call her up, ask to take her out, have a place in mind (don’t leave her to plan the evening if you are the one initiating the date, follow through). If nothing else you will stand out from the plethora of “boys” out there afraid to make this bold move (which should really be the status quo, but isn’t). She will be intrigued, and impressed.
Confidence is sexy. Vulnerability is endearing.
Go for it. Or someone else will.