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January 06, 2012 | 12:05 PM | 5 notes

Castles in the Sky

It’s easy to get caught up in the moment, especially when alcohol is involved. You meet someone at a party, you have a great conversation, there’s chemistry, you flirt, he gets your number, you kiss, you may even spend hours talking in the corner, going to a second location where you canoodle until sunrise then you finally drive home in the morning with bluebirds and butterflies flitting about, and cartoon hearts circling your head. 

Sigh. It’s just like in the movies! 

Before you know it you are dreaming about what to wear the first time you bring him home to meet your parents, planning the wedding in your mind and naming your kids. This guy is the ONE you can tell. 

While all of this is romantic and adorable it’s important to think logically and not get ahead of yourself. Get to know him the way you would anyone else. .  over the course of several, mostly sober, dates keeping in mind that you guys just met and reserving the right to decide you don’t like him after all (and realizing that he has the right to do the same). 

It’s fine to be romantic and fantasize about what could happen, just realize that a fantasy is just that, and not a guarantee of things to come. While building a castle in the sky can be fun and exciting, it makes more sense to use real building blocks on solid ground.