Anonymous asked: Can I be friends with an ex?
It’s not the best idea, at least not immediately. One or both of you will surely still have feelings for the other and that WILL get complicated. Also, if he broke up with you he shouldn’t get to be your friend afterward as a consolation prize.
I do understand that people in a relationship will have common interests and a friendship element that is kind of sad to just throw away forever, but in effort to not complicate the friendship or lead each other on it only makes sense if you:
- are both in new relationships AND
- twice the length of time that you were together has since passed. For instance, if you dated for 1 year, two years should pass first. AND
- your current significant other doesn’t have a problem with you being friends with your ex (and yes you should let them know).
If these three criteria are met, I say go for it!
