Anonymous asked: I recently met a man on the internet and we have been chatting for about 2 months. He lives several hours away from me but he has come to visit me twice (stayed in a hotel both times). At our last meeting he asked me if I would like to take the train to visit him and stay at his country house for the weekend. I would like to see him but I do not feel comfortable after only two dates and have decided not to go yet. How do I go about telling him this?
If your instinct is to not visit him just yet I would go with that feeling (instincts rarely steer you wrong). Say something like: “Thank you so much for the invitation and it sounds lovely but I just can’t get away this weekend.” Having said that, if he is crazy about you he will suggest coming to visit you again and you can keep dating at a rate that you are comfortable with! Hope all goes well!