Bextips

Finally wearing my #oxblood #leather dress! #fall #fashion #wiwt...

Tue, 25 Sep 2012 13:37:07 -0400

Finally wearing my #oxblood #leather dress! #fall #fashion #wiwt #ootd (Taken with Instagram at Chic Little Devil Style House)

"Buyer Beware— observe his behavior so you do not end up with Mr. Wrong."

Tue, 18 Sep 2012 14:27:27 -0400

“Buyer Beware— observe his behavior so you do not end up with Mr. Wrong.”

- The Rules, Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider

I’ve been spending time on Instagram lately… follow...

Mon, 17 Sep 2012 17:39:25 -0400

I’ve been spending time on Instagram lately… follow me there @Bexmarie! Bextips will be back soon :) xo

When in doubt wear art. #vintage VRBA necklace

Fri, 16 Mar 2012 15:15:00 -0400

When in doubt wear art. #vintage VRBA necklace

Haven’t posted in a while but here’s a taste of...

Thu, 01 Mar 2012 20:46:18 -0500

Haven’t posted in a while but here’s a taste of #wiwt… Vintage arm party.

Sad, Sad iPhone chat (LINK)

Tue, 21 Feb 2012 13:41:49 -0500

Sad, Sad iPhone chat (LINK):

Please don’t be this girl!

smartgirlfriend:

I so hope that this is fictional because it’s a bit outrageous, but I have seen something similar happen before. A girl got into a fight and resolved it via text without my guy friend ever responding. (Crazytown, USA). This is yet another example of how technology fools us into thinking we’re closer to someone than we are. Try not to put too much stock in those late night Facebook chats and texts. Also remember. “We’re having a party” doesn’t always mean “Hey! we’re having a party and I’d LOVE it if you came! Hope to see you later ;)” Food for thought.

I am a firm believer that like the great and powerful Oz, some things in relationships and dating should stay behind the curtain to make them magical. Those things include: personal grooming, bathroom habits, and a detailed outline of your thought process like this one. Please, please please don’t be that girl. Also, don’t be the asshole guy that posts it on the internet. I’M COMING FOR YOU, JJ.

Stay smart.

Socially sourced words of advice

Fri, 17 Feb 2012 13:51:36 -0500

Socially sourced words of advice:

I was delighted to find my very own words of advice on DKNY PR GIRL’s blog this morning! Happy Friday!

dknyprgirl:

We all can use a boost every now and again & last night I thought what better way to curate a selection of great advice then from my lovely social community. Here’s the best of the best. Take some and pass it on-

@CBernardDesign: “Never make someone a priority who considers you an option.”

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"A relationship without trust is like a car without gasoline. You can stay in it as long as you want..."

Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:03:57 -0500

“A relationship without trust is like a car without gasoline. You can stay in it as long as you want but it won’t go anywhere.”

- overheard

I recently met a man on the internet and we have been chatting for about 2 months. He lives several hours away from me but he has come to visit me twice (stayed in a hotel both times). At our last meeting he asked me if I would like to take the train to visit him and stay at his country house for the weekend. I would like to see him but I do not feel comfortable after only two dates and have decided not to go yet. How do I go about telling him this?

Sat, 21 Jan 2012 13:39:17 -0500

If your instinct is to not visit him just yet I would go with that feeling (instincts rarely steer you wrong). Say something like: “Thank you so much for the invitation and it sounds lovely but I just can’t get away this weekend.” Having said that, if he is crazy about you he will suggest coming to visit you again and you can keep dating at a rate that you are comfortable with! Hope all goes well!

Salma Hayek is my pick for Best Dressed on the Golden Globes red...

Mon, 16 Jan 2012 14:20:15 -0500

Salma Hayek is my pick for Best Dressed on the Golden Globes red carpet!

Salma Hayek has an incredible body, but her body type is not an easy one to dress! She is very petite and very curvy with a short waist and large chest. While she is breaking several rules on dressing that particular body type (dress cut at the waist, and embellishment on the chest) she manages to pull it off beautifully. Why? Because the long pleated column skirt elongates her body making her appear taller, the waist band accentuates her tiny waist, and while the embellished bust draws even more attention to an already hard to miss area she displays a comfortable amount of cleavage and the strapless silhouette fits her perfectly and looks beautiful.

She also wears her long wavy hair as an accessory covering up some of the bare skin around her bust line. The gold and black art deco style Gucci gown is classic and modern all at once. She looks STUNNING and despite being so petite, wears the floor length gown without the gown wearing her.

I love her matching bag and earrings as well. This is one of my favorite red carpet looks in a long time!

It may be Friday the 13th but…

Fri, 13 Jan 2012 15:10:22 -0500

It may be Friday the 13th but…

"Beware of wearing cheap leggings as pants in daylight…they are see-through."

Wed, 11 Jan 2012 13:50:33 -0500

“Beware of wearing cheap leggings as pants in daylight…they are see-through.”

- common sense

Can I be friends with an ex?

Tue, 10 Jan 2012 15:35:48 -0500

It’s not the best idea, at least not immediately. One or both of you will surely still have feelings for the other and that WILL get complicated. Also, if he broke up with you he shouldn’t get to be your friend afterward as a consolation prize.

I do understand that people in a relationship will have common interests and a friendship element that is kind of sad to just throw away forever, but in effort to not complicate the friendship or lead each other on it only makes sense if you:

are both in new relationships AND
twice the length of time that you were together has since passed. For instance, if you dated for 1 year, two years should pass first. AND
your current significant other doesn’t have a problem with you being friends with your ex (and yes you should let them know).

If these three criteria are met, I say go for it!

"Respect is love in plain clothes."

Mon, 09 Jan 2012 15:40:43 -0500

“Respect is love in plain clothes.”

- Frankie Byrne

Vintage panther necklace. #wiwt

Fri, 06 Jan 2012 18:15:43 -0500

Vintage panther necklace. #wiwt

Castles in the Sky

Fri, 06 Jan 2012 12:05:05 -0500

It’s easy to get caught up in the moment, especially when alcohol is involved. You meet someone at a party, you have a great conversation, there’s chemistry, you flirt, he gets your number, you kiss, you may even spend hours talking in the corner, going to a second location where you canoodle until sunrise then you finally drive home in the morning with bluebirds and butterflies flitting about, and cartoon hearts circling your head.

Sigh. It’s just like in the movies!

Before you know it you are dreaming about what to wear the first time you bring him home to meet your parents, planning the wedding in your mind and naming your kids. This guy is the ONE you can tell.

While all of this is romantic and adorable it’s important to think logically and not get ahead of yourself. Get to know him the way you would anyone else. . over the course of several, mostly sober, dates keeping in mind that you guys just met and reserving the right to decide you don’t like him after all (and realizing that he has the right to do the same).

It’s fine to be romantic and fantasize about what could happen, just realize that a fantasy is just that, and not a guarantee of things to come. While building a castle in the sky can be fun and exciting, it makes more sense to use real building blocks on solid ground.

I’ve always considered myself a sunshine seeker. These...

Thu, 05 Jan 2012 12:06:06 -0500

I’ve always considered myself a sunshine seeker.

These would go splendidly with…well…anything.

Hello Lover.

Miss Dior patent peeptoe pump in Sorbet

#wiwt #gpoy Versace for H&M, Rebecca Minkoff, Trish McEvoy

Wed, 04 Jan 2012 13:26:14 -0500

#wiwt #gpoy Versace for H&M, Rebecca Minkoff, Trish McEvoy

Maybe the rest of you doesn’t feel like trying....

Wed, 04 Jan 2012 13:21:18 -0500

Maybe the rest of you doesn’t feel like trying. That’s ok. A swipe of red lipstick will do the trick. I’m not talking about lipstain or gloss either, although those sure are lovely, I mean a full on RED lip.

I personally rarely wear red lips (pink is my favorite if you haven’t noticed), but when I do reach for my tube of red, I feel like a different person. If I were a psychiatrist, I would prescribe a tube of red lipstick to any woman expressing symptoms of lethargy, melancholy or overall gloom.

Red lipstick is the quickest way to turn “what’s the point of it all?” into “I’m going to conquer it all!”

Keep a tube next to your pill box.

Photo of Dakota Fanning for Elle UK. David Slijper photography. Image courtesy of Fashion Gone Rogue.

Boys to Men

Tue, 03 Jan 2012 12:05:05 -0500

No, this post is not about ~~my favorite~~ 90’s R&B group of a different spelling. Rather, I want to address the boys out there who are passively texting girls they like instead of manning up and asking them out. These boys can be upwards of 30 years old. And it is an epidemic.

Boys, if you like a girl, be a MAN. Call her. Ask her out on a date (a real one where you plan in advance where you will go and what you will do and what time you will pick her up). Sending a passive text to gauge weather or not she will respond favorably or hoping she will suggest getting together first so you don’t have to is not man behavior. It is boy behavior. It is scared behavior.

Trust me on this one. Call her up, ask to take her out, have a place in mind (don’t leave her to plan the evening if you are the one initiating the date, follow through). If nothing else you will stand out from the plethora of “boys” out there afraid to make this bold move (which should really be the status quo, but isn’t). She will be intrigued, and impressed.

Confidence is sexy. Vulnerability is endearing.

Go for it. Or someone else will.